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Today we are chatting about The BLAME GAME honey! Oh yes! Now, before we hop in I want to connect about a couple of things. First things first, THE CARPOOL IS COMING! Wait, what? The Carpool? Uh huh! Next week is our 1 year anniversary of The Road to Self Love and I’m excited to bring to you a brand new way to join me on the road! You can think of it like a Paul Fishman patreon if you will.
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Alright, let’s hop into this week’s episode of…
Have you ever been so angry at someone because of something they did and how it affected you? You know, like when your best friend Becky told your crush Josh that you were super into him and he started ignoring you because he couldn’t handle the pressure… AND THEN STARTED DATING BECKY?!?!? I KNOW, the nerve BECKY! Listen, I’d be pissed at becky too, like reallllll pissed. Now, before you start tearing through your middle school yearbook to cross out your bestie’s face in all your photos together, I mean, there are a bunch since you were both co-chairs of the yearbook club let’s have a conversation about BLAME.
You know, the I am SO MAD AT YOU THAT YOU DID THAT TO ME HOW COULD YOU DO THAT TO ME POINTING ALL YOUR FINGERS AT ANOTHER HUMAN WHO MESSED UP AND RUINED YOUR LIFE MAD AT YOU!! Same. been there, felt that, big time.
Ok, so let’s take a deep, deep breath here. It’s important to recognize something about this situation. I’m curious, how can we reframe this scenario and make it less heated and angry and blame-y. Yes, that’s a word and yes I’ll use it in a sentence. Blamey, the feeling of not taking responsibility. Becky, I’m sorry for being so blamey, I’m just having a really hard time taking responsibility for what I can do differently in this situation… and I’m just so mad that Josh likes you!
Listen, when I go for it, I really go for it.
Ok, so that sentence actually is taking us to the next level of how to stop playing the blame game and how to make magic happen! You ready? Wait. Justin? Is that you?
Bwah, bwah, bwah,
I’m taking ownership back
Trying to understand how to cut slack
These people pointing finger to attack
Instead of taking action as a matter fact
Take it to chorus
Come on now
Turn your fingers
Come on now
Back at you
Come on know
It’s the only
Come on know
Way to do… it
And if you are thoroughly confused that was my attempt at rewriting Justin Timberlake’s hit single Sexyback. Music video not coming soon, but really, don’t get all blamey. Maybe I’ll do it for Carpool members! You never know…
ANYWAYYYYY, here’s how you truly deal with blame and heal through it. Ask yourself this question. What can I do differently going forward? What can I do differently in situations like this to take ownership and responsibility of my own personal feelings?
Let’s take the whole Becky stole your man, who wasn’t really even yours to begin with, moment. Instead of crying in a corner about Becky outting your unrequited love to Josh, what would it have felt like to go to Josh yourself and tell him that you had just, a, a little crush, uh…. Wow, really dating myself with all these late 90’s early 2000’s music references. I mean, seriously though, what would have happened if you went to him and owned it instead of triangulating that conversation? OOOOOOH I mean, now you’re getting all blamey on me, huh? HOW DARE YOU PUSH ME TO TAKE OWNERSHIP OF MY OWN LIFE! HOW FRICKIN DARE HE?!?
I mean, jokes on you, because oops you did it again, you blamed some else for your lack of action oh baby baby…
I CAN’T WITH ME right now.
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